Holy Cow!!  The new year came in with a bang, right?! And it’s only January!  Has your mind been involved in drama and more drama?  And are you finding yourself drawn to it?  The ego loves drama and it uses it as a form of distraction.  What is it distracting itself from you might be wondering?

Your ego is distracting you from you. It doesn’t like change and wants to keep things status quo. More than likely you have set some intentions for the new year. Trying to break some old habits and patterns and create a NEW YOU.  Well, the ego is afraid of anything new.  It thinks that something new is too much work or just plain old scary.

Don’t be so hard on yourself.  There’s no need to hate it or judge yourself because of this. Hating or judging this part of you is counterproductive and a waste of time and energy.  This only makes you feel worse, decreases your self-esteem and leads to other limiting behaviors like binge watching T.V., overeating, etc.

Changing a pattern takes time, practice and a commitment to your new goal.  If your heart’s not in it, then that’s also part of the challenge.  Here are some steps to get you into the groove of training your ego to be part of team YOU and changing your behavior:

  • Go into your heart and write down why it wants to go for this new intention and the benefits. Notice if this is really important to you.  If it isn’t, create a new intention and repeat this step.  Then go to step 2.
  • Ask your ego to search out all the reasons why sticking to this new pattern is important to you and your goals this year. Write those reasons down.
  • Combine the lists of steps 1 and 2. Notice the similarities and or differences.  Post this list some place where you will see it every day like your bedroom door or bathroom mirror.
  • Share your intention and your reasons for reaching this goal with someone you trust and ask them to be your accountability partner (ask them to check in with you once a week to see how you are doing on achieving your goal).
  • Reward yourself each week as you commit to your new intention. Having a reward to look forward to increases the likely hood of you continuing to achieve your goal.
  • Share your successes with people who love and support you.

You are so loved so love yourself just as much!